My Services - Counseling &  EFT

Like everyone else, you may experience difficult moments or trials to overcome. Often, your loved ones provide you with the support you need to help you cope with these difficulties. However, certain situations require more help: when the distressing position you find yourself in does not improve, when the resources around you prove to be insufficient, or when the hardships you encounter prevent you from doing your work and affect your personal life, professional help may be necessary.

Couple Therapy

When to consult for your couple?

Your couple is in crisis: dialogue is hard going, arguments increase; violence becomes intolerable; you are confronted with a unfaithfulness; your sexual life and intimacy are unsatisfactory; health problems affect your relationship; the arrival of a child destabilizes you; you feel the need to rethink your relationship.

Therapy as a couple allows you to:

Restore a sense of meaning to your couple or personal life; find a new balance; get out of conflict; defuse violence; communicate better; develop a better understanding of the other; address difficult sexual issues; re-invent your couple’s project; harmonize the relationship between your couple and your family of origin; be accompanied in a process of separation or bereavement.

Family Therapy

In which situations is family therapy indicated?

Your family is going through a crisis linked to a change: the arrival of a child, its adolescence, its emancipation; a separation, a family re-composition, a move; a family bereavement; the relations within your family become tense, or violent.

Your family is suffering because of problems encountered by one or more family members: school failure, unemployment, illness, accident, addictions, eating disorders, depression, dangerous behaviour.

Consulting with your family helps:

Give everyone their point of view, be heard and accepted; get out of hurtful relational cycles; find a new family balance; communicate better; be supported in a process of change, put family rules into place.

Individual Therapy

The individual accompaniment allows you to clarify your personal situation, to understand what is being experienced, and thus to find support and ways to transform the situation, to encourage evolution and change in your relationship with yourself, other people.

In a couple or a family, the spouse or a family member may not want to join the interviews. He/she can join you later if he/she wishes to do so.

What is Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT)?

EFT is a well-known humanistic approach to psychotherapy formulated in the 1980’s and developed in tandem with the science of adult attachment, a profound developmental theory of personality and intimate relationships.

This science has expanded our understanding of individual dysfunction and health as well as the nature of love relationships and family bonds.  Attachment views human beings as innately relational, social and wired for intimate bonding with others.  The EFT model prioritizes emotion and emotional regulation as the key organizing agents in individual experience and key relationship interactions.

EFT for couples is the gold standard for empirically validated intervention in the field of couple therapy. According to research, EFT moves couples from distress to improvement in 10-12 sessions in about 70-75% of cases; typically it takes about 20-25 sessions to finish the EFT process. Research has shown that approximately 90% of couples who have completed Emotionally Focused Couple Therapy report long-lasting improvements years after therapy has ended.  EFT is rapidly growing worldwide and has been used with many different types of couples in private practice, university training centers, pastoral counseling centers, and hospital clinics.

EFT has also generated many relationship education programs, such as Hold Me Tight:  Conversations for Connection. (see page ateliers couple)

If EFT is best known as a cutting edge, tested and proven couple intervention, it is also used to address individual depression, anxiety and post traumatic stress (EFIT – Emotionally Focused Individual Therapy) and to repair family bonds (EFFT – Emotionally Focused Family Therapy).  This model operationalizes the principles of attachment science using non-pathologizing experiential (paralleling Carl Rogers) and relational systems techniques (paralleling Salvador Minuchin) to focus on and change core organizing factors in both the self and key relationships.

If you think EFT could help you, please do not hesitate to contact me by phone or email in order for you to explain to me how I can support you.

My Services - Couple Workshops

Workshop for couples: “Hold Me Tight”

You can have a better relationship.

Are you looking for something that can really make things better in your couple– improve communication, stop the arguing, enhance understanding and emotional intimacy, and create a more loving and secure connection?

This is the couple workshop that is helping people just like you to improve their relationship – even save their couple – all over the world.  The 2-day science based Hold Me Tight® breakthrough weekend that rekindles and repairs relationships and helps couples reconnect. 

​If you’re just starting out and want to know how to get it right…  If you have been together for a while and just need a tune up…  If you’ve lost that special connection and want to get it back…  If you’ve tried marriage counseling before unsuccessfully…  Even if you’re thinking about divorce…

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WE CAN HELP YOU – in our 2-Day Couples Workshop

Our workshop is based on the most successful model of couple therapy available today – Emotionally Focused Therapy – time tested and researched for over 25 years.  We get to the heart of the matter – down to the core emotions and behaviors that are needed to create a loving relationship, and the things that often go wrong that drive conflict and block closeness.  We help you understand your partner… and yourself, and why you do the things you do.  And we show you how to change negative patterns and make things better – right away.

Our marriage retreat is led by two trained and experienced therapists who have completed rigorous training to become certified in Emotionally Focused Therapy and who specialize in helping couples improve their marriage – true relationship experts.  We know how to create happy relationships, and how to fix them and get them back on track.

Our 2-Day couple workshop is receiving enthusiastic reviews from couple after couple who have worked with us.  From newlyweds just starting out, to couples who needed to get out of a rut, to couples on the brink of divorce.

We teach you how to look at your issues and understand them in a new way, based on the solid science of Emotionally Focused Therapy. We use real life experience and video clips to illustrate our model and demonstrate how to start making your relationship better - with tools that you can start to use immediately. We give you time to work on your own issues in private, with therapists standing by if you need them. We have developed highly effective exercises to get you moving in the right direction – quickly. You will never be put on the spot. You will never have to share anything personal unless you want to. Our couple workshop is all about safety, understanding, and validation.

Emeline Loader - Certified Therapist

Profession recognized by the Ministry of Social Affairs and Health - Affiliated with ANCCEF

I am a Couple and Family Counselor accredited by the French ANCCEF (Association Nationale des Conseillers Conjugaux et Familiaux ) who is passionate about relationships and their multiple facets, and I am trained in EFT Therapist (Emotionally Focused Therapy). EFT is the powerful tool that I mostly use for my Couple, Family and Individual sessions.

I have the privilege of being trained in French and English in EFT and I lived and worked in the UK, mainly London and Bristol, for over 10 years. I am therefore perfectly bilingual and offer sessions in either language.

I also facilitate Hold Me Tight workshops for couples. Hold Me Tight® is a two-day intensive Emotionally Focused Therapy (EFT) workshop that help couples heal broken bonds, and rekindle the spark that brought them together. Hold Me Tight® will help you and your partner feel safe, secure and connected by enabling you to:  Understand the real reasons you get into struggles over and over. Change patterns that leave you frustrated, angry and hurting. Engage in conversations keeping your love alive and secure.

I also do sessions into schools, colleges and secondary schools on Relationship, Affectivity and Sexuality Life Education, self esteem, and hold conferences and workshops for parents and teachers. I am also a trainer for the association "Couples et Familles" for Couple and Family Counselors.

I will support you on your own (adult or teen), as a couple, or a family with the greatest sensitivity, according to your values and your beliefs, in the story that is uniquely yours in one of my practices situated in Pibrac, near Toulouse or by video conference calls.

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Consultations - Fees & Appointments


To be decided together during the first session


Not reimbursed by social security. However, many insurance companies offer partial coverage.

I reserve some of my working hours for clients that can’t afford paying for therapy. I give preference to do voluntary work for client’s that have very limited income and have no means to pay a therapist. I also open some of those times for clients who are able to pay a lower fee.


If you must cancel less than 48h before your appointment, you are required to pay for the session. Appointments cancelled more than 48 hours in advance are without financial consequence.

There will be additional charge for home visits and appointments taking place in schools or other institutions.

Email exchanges are reserved for scheduling purposes, except under certain exceptional circumstances.

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